Feminism is one of those movements that started out as something decent and proper, as it was standing up for the suppressed role of women in an archaic society. But as rights and privileges were acquired, it got way off track, just to lose itself in a trip of its own.
We got the message, we listened, we adapted. In the country where I live, women now have equal opportunities to live the life they want as men do, and I think that’s great. However, for some hardcore feminists that isn’t enough, and it seems to me that feminism has morphed into a movement of women wanting to be men, rather than women wanting to have the same liberties as men. Hence I find the term feminism to be quite misplaced and rather ironic.
As much as I respect women wanting to be men, I do think it’s important to realize that not all women want to be men. Why is it so important that half of the direction of a company is female? Why do women need to be as engaged in politics as men? Leadership is simply a masculine charactaristic, and therefore it’s more likely that men have this trait than women.
There are women with a high masculine energy, much like there are males with a high feminine energy, but they will always be minorities. In the end, we all have male and female energies, but more often than not males have a dominant masculine energy and vice versa. It’s just the way it is, and there’s nothing bad about it. What we have to do is stop judging these masculine and feminine qualities as better or worse.
I remember when I saw pride and pejudice with Keira Knightly, I was really impressed by her balanced character. On one side she was very feminine, being soft, romantic, and graceful, while at the same time she was ready to stand up for what she believed in, being independent, and not easily intimidated. She embodied a very nice mix of feminine and masculine qualities, not neglecting either side.
When we take it into the game of seduction, you’ll see that most women are attracted to men who inbibe the masculine charactaristics; they love it when you’re decisive, take lead, and convey strength. In the same way, men are highly attracted to women who are sensitive, intuitive, gentle, nurturing, and compassionate. To combine the masculine and feminine qualities is to break the limits of creation; together we achieve more.
Since we all have access to these traits in one way or another, it also interesting to look at these energies from a personal development point of view. As a man, when you get more in touch with your feminine side, you’ll find that your masculine qualitites will get a deeper meaning. The macho type who’s afraid to show his feminine self is just insecure about his own masculinity. I’m sure it would be an interesting experience to connect to your recessive energy and strengthen your less developed charactaristics.
As they say that behind every great man is a great woman, I believe this to be completely true; men function much better when they have the support of a woman. In fact, women embody enormous power, but often without a sense of direction. Hence they want a man who knows what he wants, thus providing this sense of direction.
One of the Hindu deities, Shiva, a very powerful character, had a wife who was even more powerful than him. But she never told him, because she respected his ego. Men need ego in order to function; to live with values, to get things done. Of course ego can be as much a weakness as it can be strength. It is miserable men who’s egos are a source of weakness without strength, macho men who’s egos are a source of strength and weakness, and it’s the wise men who’s egos are a source of strength without weakness.
I believe that the universe is always seeking balance; the Yin-Yang principle. In the same way, I feel that in the relationship I have with my girlfriend, I also subconsciously adapt to create an equilibrium. This is quite interesting, because I know that with different women, I would act differently. It’s a matter of personality and character, giving each other space. You both own 50% of the circle, and the challenge is to fill it without overlapping each other. At the same time it’s always changing, so it requires constant attention. I think this is why proper communication is so important, so you understand each others’ desires and needs.
In the end, it’s all just energy, and I understand that feminists put great importance in their masculine traits. Just remember that not everyone is like you.