Every time your heart is broken, a doorway cracks open to a world full of new beginnings, new opportunities.” ~Patti Roberts (The Angels Are Here)
“The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and science.” ~Albert Einstein
“It is the confession, not the priest, that gives us absolution.” ~Oscar Wilde
“There are two kinds of perfect: The one you can never achieve, and the other, by just being yourself.” ~Lauren King
“The greatest education in the world is watching the masters at work.” ~Michael Jackson
“Politics is the conspiracy of the unproductive but organized against the productive but unorganized.” ~Joseph Sobran
“Bad habits are easier to abandon today than tomorrow.” ~Yiddish Proverb
“The basic fact is that humanity survives through kindness, love, and compassion. That human beings can develop these qualities is their real blessing.” ~The Dalai Lama
“To understand the immeasurable, the mind must be extraordinarily quiet, still.” ~Jiddu Krishnamurti
“There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.” – Buddha
The last song of 2011, made for the 10k and counting rap contest made possible by Dansonn. It’s about living in the deepest sense of the word. Life is more than just making a living because it’s the ultimate opportunity to manifest happiness and to learn something. Whether creation is a wonder of God or a function of nature, either way we were all brought together so we can get to know ourselves within each other. Living the good life is my expression of what living means to me. Check it out down below!
Like I mentioned before I made it for an online rap contest. Of course I’m in to win, so if you think I deserve the credits then feel free to go here and vote for me by clicking like!
Regardless of the outcome 2012 will be an exciting year with lots of new adventures and experiences. You can expect many inspiring posts and a lot of fresh and crispy tunes. You can even subscribe to this blog now to receive updates by email! I don’t believe in new year resolutions because I think we should be able to make life changing decisions each and every day. There’s no point in waiting until the year is over. The power to decide is in the here and now. We don’t want to live tomorrow as if it were yesterday, but we want to live today as if it were tomorrow.
I wish everyone a prosperous and inspiring 2012 and please don’t hestitate to make your dreams become reality! Like Michael Jackson said “The power is in believing“. Make the best out of it; live the good life.
Enthusiasm equals life. You feel it when you look at a small child who’s running around and laughing, or when you play with your dog. When we get excited we feel alive and apart from enthusiasm being the strongest motivational power in the world to get things done, we also just want to be happy in the here and now.
People have different ideas and plans in what they want to achieve for themselves, but we all pursue them for the same reasons: We want to feel good. We believe that when we reach a certain goal we’ll feel content and fulfilled, but this is not the case. Rather it will be a slight disappointment because the goal is achieved, yet nothing really changed.
The nature of goals
This is something that came to my mind as I was reading about the philosophy of having no goals. The idea behind it is that setting goals and achieving them creates more stress than happiness and that we don’t need to set goals in order to be productive. The reason why is because enthusiasm alone is the biggest driving force behind success and achievement and is a much stronger source of motivation than having a deadline or a goal on your to-do list.
This makes sense. I myself for example don’t get excited about things because they happen to be on my list of goals, but because I love doing them! The same applies to things I’d rather not do. Just because those things are on my list doesn’t mean I get more excited about them, but rather it becomes a source of stress and frustration. Instead of forcing yourself to do something you dislike, it’s also possible to rearrange your mental programming so that you can get excited about those things.
Pleasure and pain
What we like or dislike is not something that’s set in stone from the moment we’re born, but it’s something that’s programmed into our system in accordance with our experiences. Human beings are driven by the desire for pleasure and the aversion towards pain. What is pleasurable or painful is not a matter of fact, but a matter of perception.
Those who are into advertising know all about changing perception by linking pleasure to whatever they want you to buy. Because these processes usually happen on a subconscious level we’re not even aware of the huge amount of influence commercials have on us. So why wouldn’t we use this science to condition ourselves in a way that is beneficial to us?
What I’m talking about is basically NLP and it’s a very practical method for reprogramming self-limiting attitudes and systems of belief by changing the parameters and values of pleasure and pain. We will get motivated as soon as we link pleasure rather than pain to doing something that we didn’t feel so excited about before.
The supreme state of being
But to me that’s not enough. As far as pragmatism goes my mind also needs philosophical nourishment. I want to go beyond pleasure and pain and see what really drives me. The pleasure of getting a certain result is one thing, but the enthusiasm in the moment itself for doing what you love makes the result irrelevant. It is that feeling which everyone is trying to pursue as they set their goals and imagine their future achievements.
The illusion is that fulfilment is waiting for us in the future. Life happens in the present moment only and that’s why they say there is no way to happiness, but that happiness is the way. It is the passion itself that makes life worth living, because it’s in that state that we really feel alive. The proof that results and achievements don’t equal happiness can be deducted from the fact that there are many successful people who don’t feel fulfilled and happy.
In the end I believe happiness in itself is the biggest success of life and that it’s impossible to go wrong when you feel excited and enthusiastic about the things you do. The best thing is that apart from personal fulfilment it also creates a wave of upliftment that affects the people around you. Everybody likes to be around those who feel good, because it makes them feel good as well.
Be a good person
Our biggest desire is to be in that state of happiness, fulfilment, excitement and passion. I believe that is what life is all about, because it can only be lived in the here and now. Enthusiasm is something as profoundly beautiful as a blossoming flower and should be treated with care and love.
I find it really awful when people bash in each other’s enthusiasm and excitement. Would you ever do that to your child? I don’t suppose anyone would. At the very least nobody wants to be part of those who do. There’s definitely something to be said about a realistic approach, but that doesn’t mean that there is no space to let an idea grow into something that we can work with.
When we’re supportive then not only will beautiful ideas grow into realities, but also we will nourish the enthusiasm and passion that will blossom within ourselves and others to create even more beautiful things and live a fulfilling life. It becomes a productive cycle of happiness that other people will want to contribute to.
People are always quick to judge when they feel that someone else did them wrong. In their mind they create evil conspiracies that their wrongdoers have plotted out against them with obviously the most cruel intent. However, when you realize that conflicts almost always arise out of miscommunication then it seems much more logical to seek contact and hear their side of the story instead of keeping them as sworn enemies.
The first mistake people make is to seek intent behind the mistakes of another. Somehow they actually believe that someone else would actually spend their time and effort to hurt them on purpose. By taking the actions of others too personal we forget that what drives people in their actions is what they feel is right and not how badly they can hurt you. Besides it is often those that we love the most who have an impact on our emotional state with their actions. So why would your friend or your lover do something to deliberately hurt you?
There is a big difference in doing what you think is right and hurting others in the process or hurting another with intent. Even if it seems that someone did hurt you intentionally, then that is only because this person feels very miserable and is just projecting that on you. When we take it personal and get emotional about it we lose track of reality and don’t realize that this person is just looking for love. Others who hurt you without realizing it are at worst a bit inconsiderate perhaps, but it can also just be you who’s oversensitive. At the end of the day nobody but you is responsible for how you feel so blaming others is never the answer.
Sometimes I see people almost obsessively blaming others for all their hurt feelings. Friendships, relationships and even families get torn apart by this unforgiving attitude. It is a sign of strength and maturity to be able to stretch out first to attempt to make real contact instead of projecting all the hurt inside by shouting back and forth. It takes some courage to set aside the hurt ego in order to close the distance, but the reward is worth it. Knowing that there is only love means that when we approach others in a loving way then surely this will be returned eventually. And even if the love is not returned it will not be a botheration, because we’re not out to get love but rather to give it unconditionally.
The most important thing is peace of mind and this state can never be established when there are obsessive grudges going around in the mind. It is for our own benefit to forgive, because it will set us free from anger, hatred or guilt. I name guilt because it is not only important to forgive others, but also especially ourselves. There are some people who always fail to see their mistakes and learn nothing from them and then there are those who do admit their mistakes, but also start to blame themselves which equally doesn’t amount to any good.
Speaking from my own experience I myself was part of that second group and I learned that forgiving myself is just as important as forgiving another person. That doesn’t mean that it all stops there, but forgiving is a form of acceptance and is necessary in order to move on. When we stay in feelings of hurt or guilt then we lose touch with reality. Even worse is that people become the object of their attention and so they become what they despise. In the same fashion we become loving beings by making love the object of our attention. When we change our attitude to see things differently then the world will start to appear differently and different things will start coming to us.
In the power of forgiveness lies unity, whereas in hatred lies separation. Of course it takes two in order to heal a broken friendship or relationship, but stretching out first often has a disarming effect and people will start to open up so communication can happen. When we open our hearts then people will feel accepted and will not have to defend their fragile ego’s anymore from judgment. There is absolutely no point in judging, because it limits perception and is likely subject to change anyway.
With the world being in a seemingly perpetual conflict there is no reason at all to add even more to that. By establishing harmony we also keep our own peace of mind and affect the world around us in a positive way. Forgiveness is acceptance and it is the first step we can take when things have gone wrong to take responsibility for the situation and ultimately solve it. Anything else will just delay that process and can be considered a waste of precious time. Forgiveness is not for the weak hearted who can’t fight, but for the strong who have the confidence to set their ego’s aside in favor of everything else.
Taking responsibility is a choice; nobody can do it for you, and nobody can force you to do it. It is always a conscious choice, because at that moment you take conscious control of a specific part of your life, increasing your sphere of influence.
The amount of influence is directly linked to control and power. Maybe all those words could even be considered as one thing, but for the argument it doesn’t matter; I find it more important that you know what I mean. It’s most unfortunate that what I’m about to talk about are things that we don’t learn in school. We have to learn it from life and some people don’t learn it at all. Most people use it to a certain extend, but don’t understand how it actually works which keeps them from unlocking its true potential.
However, there’s a difference between mental knowledge and actual knowledge. Mental knowledge is what you have in your head, actual knowledge is what you are putting into practice. Needless to say mental knowledge is not worth anything other than being a source of inspiration to get to actual knowledge. It is also something that takes conscious effort and doesn’t happen automatically. In fact there’s nothing that happens automatically, even though at times there seems to be. Everything starts with conscious attitude and anything that happens automatically is a result of that. So for the sake of being in power and taking control, it’s important to realize that there’s nothing until we decide to create something.
So how do we empower ourselves and take control of our lives? By taking responsibility for whatever you want be in charge of. The majority of the people you see walking up and down the street every day take responsibility to a certain degree, like taking a job to be financially independant. But there are very few who take responsibility for their feelings, their relationships, their health in the broadest sense of the word and most importantly: Their happiness.
We live in a matrix in which we project our minds to create the world around us. This is important to understand, because as long as we see ourselves and the world as seperate entities, we won’t be able to have any sort of control over our lives. Perhaps in some moments, but most of the time it’ll be chaos which leaves us to be playball of fate by surrendering ourselves to the mercy of others. That is definitely a situation anyone would rather avoid. To feel alive we have to make our own decisions and be the creators of our dreams.
What you see outside is what is happening inside. So all change starts from within and not the other way around. The outside can definitely help us to become aware of the inside when we realize that the world is but a mirror of who we are. Everything happens for a reason and when we hold our environment responsible for what we experience then we’re putting ourselves out of power to change our experience of life. When we take responsibility everything will feel as if it’s supposed to be, because we’re the ones who made it that.
However, a lot people blame the world for all the things that they’d rather not have in their lives. They blame their environment for their feelings, the quality of their relationships and their state of mind. How often do you hear people complain about others? But who is really responsible for their complaints? And who has the power to take control and change it? That’s right. You’ll know that you’re on the path of empowerment when you meet people who also take responsiblity for their lives, because we attract what we are.
Apart from sheer ignorance, a lot of people don’t want to accept this as truth on a subconscious level, because taking responsibility takes effort; they don’t want to believe that it works like this because it would no longer justify their lazy attitudes. This way of life leaves one out of control and obviously leads to misery. The irony is that it is the mind alone that creates misery, but when one decides to take responsibility and goes into action the mind will no longer be the source of agony because it’ll be engaged in the moment itself.
I’ve been there and done that, so I know all about it. One effective way to deal with a miserable mind is to roll up your sleeves and get busy. Like they said in Art of Living: “Hands busy, head empty, heart full.” When we make the transition from thinking to acting all problems will be replaced with solutions; it’s the path from mental knowledge to actual knowledge. It is in the moment itself that we have the power and resources to act and change, but when we don’t live up to that our mind will be torn between that what is and that what it wants.
We are responsible for everything that happens in our lives and we have the potential to control every part of it. Nobody is looking for sympathy especially not from oneself. Real love is about strength and real support is about strength. Never support weakness such as self-limiting beliefs for they can only contract your world, limit your possibilities and keep you from realizing your full potential. Don’t listen to those who have those limiting beliefs themselves are projecting them onto you.
Know what you want and do something about it. The creativity and inventiveness of the mind shows in the many different forms and types of excuses that people come up with, but that ability is far better used in doing something that is actually in your best interest. There are so many out there who feel sorry for themselves and it doesn’t amount to anything. It’s an attitude that puts us out of power while waiting for someone else to do something about it. This is the reason why most people are docile and obedient towards their governments; they trade their power for comfort.
Happiness is not something we are born with as a child. What makes children special is that they don’t carry as much emotional luggage as much adults, their minds are open and limitless annd are constantly in the moment. They don’t get stuck in emotional states, but other than that their lives are a mix of pain and pleasure like with everyone else. It takes time and effort to go beyond those emotional states and to train the subconscious to remain equanimous by being like that on a conscious level.
But that’s another story which you can find more about right here. The point is that real happiness is consciously created before it becomes an automated state of mind. Our subconscious mind has enormous capacity to process information; from memorizing and categorizing everything that’s happening in every moment to regulating most of our bodily functions on a macro and micro level. It just needs to be trained, and this is where the conscious mind comes into play. The conscious mind is the master of life and it gets its authority by taking responsibility.
This is why some people seem to have easy lives, because it looks like everything happens automatically. However, behind that is serious effort. Nobody ever got anything for free and everything you get that you didn’t earn is going to be paid for by you eventually. So there’s no choice but to step up and I believe that’s a good thing. One’s capacity to take responsibility is limitless and so is the amount of happiness that comes along with it. It was Siddharta who wanted to solve the problem of suffering for humanity as a whole and one day he awoke under a tree as Buddha.
Another source of inspiration is the book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Basically it is an essay that was put together by studying the mindsets and attitudes of the wealthiest individuals in the US in order to uncover the secret behind success so that everyone could have access to that information. It’s definitely worth reading and to me personally it made a lot of sense. Like I said before nothing happens automatically and conscious creation requires constant effort. Obstacles will be there, but I think it’s just a way for the universe to check if you’re determined enough to get it.
The most important in order to gain control over our lives is to realize that we are responsible for every part of our experience, from the smallest to the largest. It is the only way to draw that power onto ourselves that we need to manifest what we want.